Today we’re going to discuss Love, Lukewarm, and Loathing.
It’s something I talk about with my family, friends, and clients alllll the time.
“What do you love?”
“What do you loathe?”
“What do you do that you’re lukewarm about?”
It’s too cliché or flip to simply say, “Do what you love. Stop doing what you loathe.”
Yet, at the same time, it’s true.
Sure, you make decisions (consciously or unconsciously) to keep doing things you loathe. And sometimes you put off doing things you love.
There are good reasons…and there are excuses.
One popular coaching exercise out there is Hidden Gold. It goes like this:
- Pull out a blank piece of paper.
- Create three columns.
- Label the columns: LOVE, LUKEWARM, LOATHE.
- Throughout the week, as you attend meetings, plow through your To Do list, and procrastinate, you fill out the list.
- Finally, for each item in each column you ask, “Is this the best and highest use of my time? Can someone else do this? Is there any way I can eliminate this from my life completely?”
It’s a way to whittle down your obligations to those things you love to do that are the best and highest use of your time. And I recommend doing this exercise at least once a year.
Now, if you find yourself in the land of “should” or “have to” then it’s time to call me. Many times, these seemingly rational explanations are just veiled excuses for things you’re not ready to take action on.
With a bit of a perspective shift, I can help you rethink your LOVE, LUKEWARM, and LOATHE lists. My focus is always on what you LOVE. The rest, I feel confident there are ways to eliminate or delegate.
Make some room,