What is the opposite of play?

If you said the opposite of play is work, I’d like you to hold that thought.

This weekend Nelson and I explored the miles of forests and rivers around our new home. We discovered (for a second time) Gorges State Park which has an astounding 20 waterfalls within the park’s boundaries. We visited DuPont State Forest and were reminded of the magnificence of Bridal Veil Falls, Triple Falls, and Hooker Falls. Our view of Lake Jocassee in the distance was excellent and made us wish for warmer weather paddling days ahead. So did finding several canoe launches for the French Broad River.

Sunday we ended up on a dirt road that was, in a couple places, really scary because of the snow and ice.It was all worth it when we discovered a lake I’d camped at and kayaked on nearly eight years ago! Our most exciting adventure happened during our drive up to the Blue Ridge Parkway Saturday to go hiking in the snow. On our way up, up, up, we slid off into a ditch.


Thankfully, there were a lot of other folks out playing in the snow and in short order they hitched a chain between our truck and theirs and pulled us out. We busted a tail light and dinged the bumper, but all’s well that ends well, yes?

With that list of goodness, let’s get back to the opposite of play.

This past year, I’ve been doing a lot of reading about whole-hearted people. About people who have well-balanced lives. About people who are happy.

Brené Brown has been top of my list. And interestingly, she discovered through her years of research that the opposite of play is NOT work.

The opposite of play is depression.

Think about that for a minute. Really think about it.

If the opposite of play is depression, then work can fit into either of those things, right?

Many of my clients fit play and work together:

* A video company team spends time together each day watching hilarious (or horrible) YouTube videos

*The book publishing company that has adopted the attitude of being SPARKly

*”WordPlay” will teach you how to be a better writer and has really fun and thought-provoking exercises to help

*Martha Beck, preeminent Life Coach says, “Play until it’s time to rest. Rest until it’s time to play.”

Sadly, I can go the opposite direction, too, and list people I know who put work and depression together as naturally as chocolate and peanut butter.

Rather than dwelling on the negative, let’s focus on play! Think about the last time you played. Nothing structured. You just got silly. Or you got lost. Or you got so into your hobby (or your work) that you lost track of time.

This playtime is essential for wellness. For being whole-hearted. For having a happy life.

Oftentimes during a Make Some Room Rendezvous, a client confesses they want more TIME. Time to play, time to work, time to read, or write or even to do nothing.

It’s such a gift to help clients get organized, systematized, and in control of their schedules and lives.

It’s such a gift to have those same clients call me and say, “Work is getting done. And I have more TIME now to do whatever it is I want.”

Make some room,


P.S. I’m scheduling the March Make Some Room Rendezvous sessions. I’ll do a few in April, too, and then they won’t be available until the autumn. Don’t miss out!

The case for moving

I’d like to make a case for moving. Even if being out of a routine is odd. Uncomfortable. Disorienting almost.

I was reminded of this during my move last week.

The purging. Deciding what to keep and what not to keep. The packing and wrapping.

And then I got sick. Like fall-down-and-sleep-on-the-couch-for-days sick.

And still…I love moving. I love having to go through my boxes and files yet again and decide what can stay and what can go.

Moving gives me new eyes. Moving helps me make fresh decisions. Bold decisions.

Decisions like: I haven’t touched this box of files in ages. Shred!

Decisions like: I am never going to use this particular shelf of office supplies. Donate!

And decisions like: there is simply too much clutter living on my desk. Purge!

I encourage you to regularly take a look at your office, your files, your bag or briefcase, and even your home. What you can shred, donate, or purge?

Here in North Carolina, we’re having a winter storm event. I say it’s the PERFECT time to stay indoors and look at your stuff with fresh eyes.

If you’re not sure where to start, not sure what to purge, or feel too much emotional attachment to your own stuff, then it’s time to call me for help.

You bring the willingness. I’ll bring the fresh eyes.

Make some room,


My best clients all have this

I figured out something today about the best clients I love to work with. They all have some very specific traits in common that have nothing to do with the industry they’re in, how much money they’re making, or whether they’re men or women.

I did a two-hour Make Some Room Rendezvous this morning with a new client. We went through all the normal questions about her business, her systems, and her piles. We chatted about email, technology, delegation and other important stuff.

We were down to about 10 minutes left in the session. And something continued to nag me.

I finally asked her, “Why do you do what you do? Why did you leave the safety and security of your job to start this business?”

Her answer made everything click for me: “I have something to say and I didn’t feel like I could say it within the confines of my job.”

Ah. Now we’re talking!

It was beautiful to watch her slip into her power mode. To say with conviction that her ideas were out-of-the-box and provocative. They would change her industry. And she wanted the freedom to step into that.


Don’t get me wrong, systems and processes are important. Running a business well is important.

And, more important than that (to me, anyway) is how it takes vulnerability to say what you feel, especially when it’s different than what everyone else is saying.

It’s important to me to see clients act with courage as they step into self-employment and business ownership and all the highs and lows that come with it.

It’s important to me to honor the bravery it takes to sign a lease on a bigger office space, to buy a building, hire team members, or to decide “this is the only kind of work I will do because it makes me feel good. When I feel good, I do my best work.”

And I’ll tell you, until I can connect with a client at that level of vulnerability, courage, and bravery, it’s really hard for me to get excited about working with them.

Those three elements are everything to me. I’ve worked hard myself to embrace and embody those traits. My soul sings when I get to connect with someone at that level of authenticity.

I do my best work from this place. And actually, so do my clients.

When you’re ready to really embrace and step into your vulnerability, courage, and bravery, I’d love to work with you.

And yes, we’ll get you organized and systematized and that stuff — and we’ll have a damn fine reason for doing it, too.

Afterall, you’re here to change the world. So am I. And I’d be honored to do it together.

Make some room,


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