I recently read an article by the creator of an app called The Boyfriend Log. The author, Linda Sivertsen, created this app to help keep herself honest while dating (which of course makes me think about a Productivity Log of some sort).
She created a color-coded system for tracking how she felt after a date.
- Green = romantic
- Yellow = neutral
- Blue = sad
This system worked really well to help her identify her patterns around men. Where she made excuses for their behavior. The number of times she felt sad date after date with a guy she still felt attracted to. And this system helped her kick several Mr. Wrongs to the curb.
See, our brains can trick us into thinking things are better than they really are.
You really want to give people the benefit of the doubt when dating, right? And it’s nice to fall in love.
It tickled me to read this article because several of the personal organization systems I use help my clients stay honest with themselves, too.
To stay on track with their agreements, boundaries, and goals. To be in integrity with their promises. These systems keep my clients honest (if they want to be honest).
When my clients dig into priorities with me, they begin to choose how to spend their time in a way that feels great to them. And when those priorities are written down and used regularly, they stay top of mind and stuff gets done.
Then, when my clients begin using their personalized Time Map (a real game-changer and a version of a Productivity Log), they more clearly understand how to maximize their time to get their important work done on a daily basis.
There’s no more feeling like crap when they open their email, face their To Do list, or even when they do a year-end review.
I hope you’ll consider how powerful tracking your own activities and feelings can be. While I don’t have “The Productivity Log” app, I can guarantee that your eyes will be opened to a whole new way of being and working that will do wonders for your workflow, business, and life.
Make Some Room,
I didn’t write yesterday’s Day of Organizing and immediately felt like I was doing it wrong. We spent Christmas up in D.C. with my family and had a long car-trip home on Saturday. My hubby is sick with a wretched chest cold. I have a sore throat. I found out my mom had a fever the day after we left.
It’s all sickness here. Ick.
So today I want to talk about compassion and forgiveness as part of organizing. Or rather, as a practice of not beating yourself up if you don’t do something perfectly. Don’t immediately think you’re doing it wrong.
I’m quite sure there’s a few people who would judge me for not planning better. For not sucking it up and sticking to my agreement. For missing a whole day of my 31 Days of Organizing.
In fact, a few years ago, I wouldn’t have had compassion for myself. I would have judged myself the worst of all.
But now…now there’s room in my heart and in my Soul for compassion.
I’m not saying there isn’t a time to suck it up and get it done. To show up even when you don’t feel like it.
Yesterday was simply not that day.
And gentle reader, I invite you to consider where you being unnaturally hard on yourself. Overly-critical. Not compassionate.
And I invite you to quit it.
Stop aiming for perfection. For perfect organization. Stop fighting so hard and judging yourself about doing it wrong.
You’ll screw up. Royally sometimes.
And it’s okay.
It really is.
Make Some Room,
A few years ago, I was on a tear creating organizing videos. Some of them have been very popular, with upwards of 2,000 views.
If you’re more of a visual learner, check out some of my best videos:
If you struggle with organization, I hope you’ll watch these quick organizing videos to understand how simple and easy it can be!
Make Some Room,
P.S. Note these organizing videos are a few years old and use the original name of my company “Mattson Business Services.” The videos are still totally useful and I don’t want you to be confused.